So, my given name is Michelle, but I generally respond more quickly to ‘mom,’ even when I am not biologically the caller’s mother. I have been blessed with five great, funny, intelligent, sarcastic and occasionally naughty kids. They range from 12 to 22; three girls and two emotionally terrorized boys sandwiched in the middle. They are the air I breathe, the joy of my life. They changed me from an easy going, phlegmatic girl into a crazy lioness, ready to attack any person, place or thing that causes them pain.
For the last nine years I have officially been a single-mom although unofficially since my firstborn’s conception.
I have always struggled with prudence and temperance and that manifested itself clearly when, at twenty years old, I accepted a marriage proposal from a Narcissist after only three months of dating. And yes, I’ve discussed this with a therapist and every priest in Northern Virginia.
I am many years into the healing process but make no mistake, I’m not healed. I suspect that takes a lifetime.
I have much that I need to articulate about divorce, children, the Faith, etc…and even more to learn, but when I looked for online help, I was unable to find frank, clear, honest answers in the context of my Faith. I would like to be a voice for those of us not moved by lofty sentiment and sweeping generalities, but in need of applicable, tangible answers to tough and messy realities.
I’m not sure if I can achieve that goal, but I’m going to try!